When you think of an “empty nest”, you might think about parents mourning the loss of their children in the home. However, this can be a positive experience! Some of the benefits of being empty nesters include:
- Feeling pleasure or accomplishment that your child has matured and is living their own life.
- Entering a new type of relationship and friendship with your child.
- Enjoying more time for new activities and hobbies.
- Enjoying more private time with your significant other.
- Improved mood and fewer responsibilities.
If you are an empty nester, you might feel a range of emotions, from excitement, sadness, worry, happiness or depression. This is normal! It is okay to one day be happy to talk to your child who is a more mature adult, be worried they’re not eating enough the next day and then feel sad that you haven’t seen them in a while the next.
If you have been feeling lingering sadness or depression, it can help to talk to other parents who are going through or who have been through the same thing. Try to look at the benefits and make a list of all the things you want to do with your new free time. It also helps to remember that your child is now an adult and you can’t worry about what they’re doing every second of the day. If they make a mistake, it is on them now. If you are really struggling, see a doctor or a therapist who can help you through this hard time.
Do you have an “empty nest”? How are you dealing with us? What do you think are the positives and negatives? You can use this post to start at discussion!